| We Repaired Our Broken Relationship! | | | | problem (for instance pornography) could pop up |
| Aaron works long hours and Maggie doesn't believe | | | | because you haven't dealt with the core issue. |
| that he is there for her. Maggie spends all of her time | | | | When you start to deal with core issues rather than |
| meeting the children's needs and Aaron feels that she | | | | symptoms, you can save the relationship. |
| doesn't have time for his needs? Can this relationship | | | | Once you have identified the core problems, you can |
| be saved? Does this sound familiar? Well read on, I | | | | begin to share your thoughts. This means both |
| want to hear you say, "We repaired our broken | | | | expressing your own feelings and listening to your |
| relationship!" | | | | partner's concerns. Hold your partner's hand when |
| First, you must decide whether the relationship is worth | | | | you are talking about your problems as a signal that |
| saving. While almost every relationship can be saved | | | | you want to reconnect even when your emotions are |
| with hard work, both parties must decide that they | | | | swirling. When your partner talks about things that |
| want to make it work. If a partner has checked out | | | | hurt you remember that he or she is not doing it |
| in his mind, there is little that can be done, unless he is | | | | because he or she wants to hurt you. Rather it is |
| willing to try. | | | | because they want to improve the relationship. |
| Many people stay in a relationship because it is | | | | Stop for a minute and say to yourself; "We repaired |
| convenient or remain in a marriage because of the | | | | our Broken Relationship!" THINK POSITIVE!! |
| children. But that is not enough. How to save a | | | | Once you have pinpointed the problems in your |
| relationship starts with a commitment by both parties | | | | relationship, create an action plan to solve them. |
| that the relationship is worth saving. You both have to | | | | Then, take concrete steps on your action plan. If you |
| want it. | | | | don't spend time together like you used to, plan a date |
| Next, you must pinpoint the problem or problems in a | | | | night every week. Take turns coming up with |
| relationship. One of the biggest problems in how to | | | | creative ways to spend an evening together each |
| save a relationship is that people believe the | | | | Wednesday. If not communicating is the problem, |
| symptoms of the problem are the problem itself. | | | | commit to spending 20 minutes before going to bed |
| For instance, many people think an affair is a problem | | | | just talking to one another. And, then do it. |
| that causes break ups. In truth, the affair is a | | | | Finally, you should realize that saving a relationship is an |
| symptom of a deeper problem. For instance, a lack | | | | ongoing process. You are going to take two steps |
| of true intimacy can lead to a straying spouse. While | | | | forward only to take one step back. There is going |
| most people look at the affair as the problem, the | | | | to be both laughter and tears going forward. Be |
| underlying cause of the affair was the lack of intimacy | | | | quick to apologize and slow to blame. |
| in the primary relationship. If you do not deal with the | | | | Is your relationship worth saving? I hope so! You |
| lack of intimacy, you might be able to keep another | | | | need to at least try! Hopefully after reading this you |
| affair from starting through the use of guilt, but another | | | | can say that "We repaired our Broken Relationship! |